1. Well for starters, he's not exactly doing right by his health... but if he wants to do it, I can't stop him.
2. He always has to leave me every so often to take a few minutes out to smoke... this sucks when ur on a date or just spending time together and:
- a) he wants to ditch me for a few minutes when we're at a bar/club coz he has to 'step out for a minute'
- b) we're at a shopping centre and i either have to wait outside by a bin with him til he's done... or sit inside waiting like a loner
- c) we're snuggling together at his house, under the sheets, watching a nice movie together when suddenly 'babe, just keep watching, I'm going to get some "fresh air"'.
3. He needs to save up some of his money and wants to budget himself better... yet he throws $$ away buying that crap every week.
4. I'm an ex-asthmatic and either way, I just can't breathe with that stuff
5. Lastly.. the reason why it really pisses me off, the one i find most irritating and annoying... is the fact that everytime we plan to meet up, I dress myself up, I wash my hair and make it all 'smell pretty' (as my friend jase used to say lol) and by the end of the night i ALWAYS ALWAYS end up smelling like an ash tray... -_-' booo
My friend told me the other day... life's too short to be complaining about all that shit, if someone wants to live their life a certain way, then they have the right to - and you shouldn't really be trying to change that. Yah that's fair enough, it's true and really we don't have the right to make people change their lives for us... hell as a woman i know it's a habit and almost instinctive to try and change your man... and it's not always a good thing. But one of the key things to a relationship is compromise... and accepting that change is necessary when it hurts/affects the other person. See despite all of this, if I had to stand as a loner for a few minutes every so often so he could smoke, or if i ended up getting lung cancer with him in the future from passive smoking - I wouldn't really care because I love him, and we're in it together til the end.....
but if i end up smelling like smoke every single time we meet up then SERIOUSLY i might start having to carry around a tissue with faecies wrapped in a plastic bag and carry it around in my bag so that at the end of the night i CAN WIPE IT IN HIS HAIR AND CLOTHES SO THAT WHEN HE GOES HOME THAT NIGHT AT 2AM AND GOES TO BED, HE CAN IMMERSE HIMSELF IN THAT PLEASANT AROMA ALL THROUGH THE NIGHT..............
:) smoking sucks
Sunday, May 24, 2009
The downsides to dating a smoker...
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2 comments:
I think its unfair for you and him
1. makes you look like a total loner
2. he misses like 5mins being with you when instead his out smoking.. his loss
fair enough you can't change a person but there's an extent to it.. its not like your changing things for the worse but the better for yourself and also his. (i thought he was gonna stop :P)
better yet, for everytime he smokes when his leaving ya.. pay him back with something else ;) only fair. its not playing meanie or anything just shows it through his own eyes. not like he gains anything from smoking plus a whole few minutes without ya
if you can itemize all the ways that this habit makes you feel horrible, affects your health and well being and makes you make light of cancer -- yea i think its a problem...and one that he must change if he wants a future with you...you already know that
Life isn't short...you could spend years putting up with Bullshit...WHY?
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